What is love? Baby don’t hurt me no more.
Interpersonal skills
Professor: Patrícia Araújo
Student: Hyesung Myung (8757)
04/11/2019
Introduction
Life is hard enough as it is, you do not want to cry anymore. We always make a new relationship and get hurtful and then learn something from that experience. Even we know that start a new relationship is a mistake and know the result of most of the relationship, we can’t stop having a relationship. We are addicted to love and relationship.
Definition of emotion
All mammals and some vertebrates
can feel the feelings that arise about a phenomenon or thing, the senses of the
life instincts. The joy I feel maybe the sorrow that others feel, and the
anger I feel maybe the pain that others feel. Because of that emotions should
be expressed only to the extent that they do not hurt the feelings of the other
person. Early in the history of psychology, it was argued that this is due to
the arousal of the body’s sympathetic nervous system. It’s called the James-Langer
Theory, which argues that emotions are merely brain interpretations of the
state of the body. In other words, external stimulus – physical condition –
emotion. So basically, you are not crying because you are sad, it is sad
because you are crying.
This
is not a totally wrong word, and it is quite possible that certain behaviors in
the body will trigger certain emotions. For example, even if you see a funny
cartoon or a plain explanation, it is actually more fun to see it with an
unconscious artificial smile. Psychologists have even found that altering
breathing patterns can artificially trigger certain emotions. Most human beings
express their feelings when logic, intelligence, and reason no longer work,
which can be thought of as admitting that their logic is wrong. This doesn’t mean you
have to get rid of your feelings. Many people misunderstand madness and
feelings as synonyms and insist only on reason and rationalism, and the
expression of normal feelings is good for the body. On the other hand, unhealthy
feelings, or madness, are harmful to the body. Throughout the world, emotion
control is a fundamental virtue, so it is necessary to laugh appropriately, cry
appropriately, and sometimes endure depending on the situation. But it is also
not good for you to try to control your anger all the time. Indeed, in Korea,
men when they are getting older, are not good at express sadness, and
women are going to not good at express anger. This can cause mental or
emotional disorders as a result of repressed anger or stress.
What is Love?
Compare to Joy, anger, sorrow, and pleasure such as human feelings, the definition of love and meaning of love is more complicated to explain and describe. Many people tried to describe the meaning of love, but their definition was didn’t fit perfectly. As such, this emotion dominates most of the human’s art. especially humans express this emotion by writing a song and show their love with sing a song. Love is the most common emotion can happen to human but also indefinable sensations. Having this feeling for someone makes it very happy and thinks of the object well, on the contrary, it makes you very sad when someone leaves. If these feelings go by and flow in the wrong direction, it can ruin a person. For this reason, love has the odd power to make laugh and ring a person. In particular, it seems to be the opposite of hate, but it has the same shape as both sides of the coin, so hate is often derived from love and vice versa. By the way, it seems that very few of the notion of marriage with love became widespread among ordinary people. There are four phases and types of love defined by Plato: physical love (Eros), moral love (Philia), mental (faith) love (stergethron) and lastly unconditional love (Agape). According to Plato’s theory, love slowly develops from physical love to unconditional love. In the Greek period, love between men and men was more sublime than the love between men and women, who began to skip the physical love (Eros) stage. However, this story is the claim of modern western scholars based on Christian ethics and it is not one hundred percent true because there are explicit descriptions of same-sex physical love in the Amphora, which is found in the ruins of ancient Greece. Some cultures treated homosexual love as noble, but in more cultures, they were buried and lamented. For example, Islamic countries ban homosexuality by law and in some Islamic countries, people just kill gay people due to their religion. Love is divided into knowing love and get to know love. The previous one can be explained by family love, fellowship, and fraternity. The latter is represented by the love between men and women, but they come quickly, but also many people come slowly over a long period of time.
Conclusion
Love is complicated. Even if we know the definition of love, it is impossible to have a relationship without hurt. Every people in the world deserve love. The biggest love in the world is love from parents. But sadly, we always take their love for granted. And we don’t feel enough thankful for their love and we always regret when they leave us. So, I would say “you would better be good when they are with you”.Bibliology
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/psychpedia/love https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/hide-and-seek/201206/plato-true-love https://www.oxfordhandbooks.com/view/10.1093/oxfordhb/9780195182903.001.0001/oxfordhb-9780195182903-e-12https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotion
Haddaway - What Is Love
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HEXWRTEbj1I
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