What is Self-steem?
Self-steem is the way people feel about themselves. In pdsychology, the term self-esteem can be used to describe a person´s personal value. It is seen as a personality trait and it involves a variety of beliefs about yourself, such as the appraisal of your own appearance, emotions, beliefs, and behaviors. Self-esteem plays a very important role in your motivation and success throughout life.If you believe you are capable of success you will achieve it but if you don´t believe it due to low self-esteem then it can hinder your capabilities when facing a challenge pr when trying to accomplish goals.
Self -esteem is developed during our childhoods depending on how people and specially how our parents treat us. If parents are bringing their children down by telling them they are stupid or incapable, then the child will develop poor self-esteem. When a child is given the necessary love and attention he needs mixed with appraisal, then he will develop high self-esteem.
Communication
Communication is the process through which we give and receive messages. These messages influence the behavior and self-concept of others as well as our own behavior and self-concept. The way in which we communicate with others is quite important since this is how we can let others know who we are, what aour values are, what we believe in, and also how we feel. There are several types of communication but the two most important onwes are verbal and non-verbal communication. About 65% of communication we use is non-verbal, meaning that a person´s body language can tell us more about a person than what they are trying to say verbally. Usually, body language is used to emphasize what is being said, but a lot of times body language will tell us the truth of what the other person is truly trying to say. Most times it can be confusing when someone is telling us something but their body tells us otherwise. In these occasions, body language is probably going to tell us the truth since we communicate non-verbally, our bodies usually act unconciously thus it is harder to hide the truth of what we are feeling. Self-esteem in Communication
Our self-esteem is one of the main elements of our personality, and therefore it directly affects our way of communicating and also how we perceive the messages we receive by others. Body language is a major factor of communication, and self-esteem has a distinctive and a direct effect on this. The characteristics of someone with high self-esteem when comunicating are as follows:
-They use a wide and flexible vocabulary
-They talk firmly and without any hesitation
-Demonstrate empathy
-They are able to accept criticism and failure because their view of themsleves is firm
-Use phrases that admit responsability
On the other hand, people with low-self esteem on the other side have the dollowing characteristics:
-They are very defensive about themselves
-Don´t have good body posture
-They do not use as much "movement" when expressing themselves
-Do not like taking risks in social encounters
-They have a pessimistic view of their social skills and have speech patterns which are sort of hesitant or speech habits like when they use slang.
Also, esteem has to do with our culture and those around us and how we perceive both of these things as a whole. Cultures have different identities meaning that people´s values differ from one culture to another.
Perception is of major importance when it comes to self-esteem. It not only determines how you see yourself, but how you see others. When we perceive something, we are mentally processing the information we have received through all our senses. Our past experiences, our culture, the situation we might be in, the way we have been raised, and many other factors influence how we process information.
Conclusion
Through communication, we try to fit in certain crowds of people and adjust to the values that they might have. We try to communicate like them to maybe ensure ourselves that we are liked. If it works, it will strengthen your self-esteem first, because you have won their approval, and second, because now you have proved to yourself that your judgement of what is acceptable was right therefore, raising your self-esteem.
Our self esteem plays a very important role on how we develop ourselves in society and social groups in which we try to fit in mainly through communication first. When our self esteem is high, we tend to give off a better image of ourselves and due to that we receive more compliments thus further increasing our self-esteem. When our self-esteem is high, we can also be ncier to other people because we dont need to improve our self-esteem. Unlike people with low self-esteem who try to bring down other people in order to raise their self-esteem.
Therefore, even if we have been conditioned to have a different level of self-esteem from an early age, we can still imrpove it and we should in order to make a better society.
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